I was out shopping last week for a pair of speakers for my  music system.  There's a street in town  that sells every type of audio accessory.   Everyone goes there to buy gadgets.
When I entered the first store and asked for the component I  wanted, the clerk smiled and said it wasn't in stock.  Then, she did something that surprised me at  the time (but made perfect sense later, when I thought about it).  She directed me to another store a block down  the road where I could find it.
No, she didn't just point me in the right direction and say, "Go there!"
She stepped out from behind the counter, and walked along  with me to the small, easy-to-miss shop.   She then introduced me to the girl at the front desk and explained what  I was looking for.  A few seconds of  friendly banter later, she smiled and waved goodbye as she went back to her  store.  And her friend helped me out.  I returned home, happily carrying the part I  needed.
  On the ride back, I thought about what had just transpired.
How easy it would have been for the shopgirl to merely guide  me to the other place, or even just state that she didn't have the part in  stock and move on to another customer.   Yet she took the time, trouble and effort to guide me - to her  competitor!
As a businessman, I wondered: "How does THAT make  any sense?"
Well, it does.  When  you see the big picture.  And think about  adding value to the entire community of audio equipment sellers.
Every customer arriving at that street was a potential buyer  looking for a specific type of item.   Every store on the street sold related items.  If one didn't stock a specific piece, someone  else surely had it.  By helping a  customer (me) find what he wanted, even if it meant guiding him away from her  own store, the brilliant businesswoman (she) was actually growing the value and  brand of the ENTIRE STREET, the whole community of musical equipment stores!
That's why everyone in our town goes there to buy audio  stuff.  We know we'll find it - somewhere.  Which means we'll keep going back there every  time we need more of the same.
And then, I had my big 'A-ha' moment!  
It guided how I practice SEO - and share my experience with  fellow consultants and specialists in my field.
"You Help Your Competitors Too Much!"
After publishing some popular SEO articles like "How  much does SEO cost" and "The  Ultimate List of Reasons Why You Need SEO" at Search Engine Land  (one of the Web's most popular SEO destinations), I had several comments saying  how I share too much information with other consultants and agencies - who are  my competition.
But as the lady at the little speaker shop taught me, you  are not adding "too much value" for your competitors... only to your  customers!
In the short term, it might appear as if you're giving away  the farm.  But this isn't charity - it's  an investment.  Into your brand.  Your reputation.  Your future success.  
By helping everyone around you, you are not only helping  consolidate the position of your entire industry... you are growing your influence  within your peer group.
SEO is a huge market.   You're not going to claim each and every piece of the large pie.  You will never be able to reach every  potential client of yours and educate them about the power of SEO in their  business.  But collectively, along with  all of your peers in the SEO consulting field, you can make a big impact in an  area that matters most in getting the right SEO clients for yourself.
Selling SEO Is Not Technical - It Is Emotional!
Too often we see SEO experts try to sell prospective clients  on "results" - more page 1 rankings, higher traffic, better  keywords.  Effective SEO is about all  this... and more.  It is about going  higher up the Maslowian hierarchy of needs, and touching clients on an  emotional level.
You're not selling the #1 position on Google (which is  unstable anyway).  You're selling  "safety".  You offer a secure  stream of prospects for their products and services.  You're helping future proof their  business.  You're showing them a way to  sustain their profits.  And by doing  this, you're taking an express elevator up the pyramid of their emotional needs  - while your competition is laboring up the stairs!
In their groundbreaking book, Al Ries and Jack Trout talk  about marketing as war.  However, your  competition (or enemy) is NOT other consultants within the SEO-industry - it's  your clients.  Clients buy SEO  services.  The battle you wage is for  their mind.  And to secure your place  firmly in their mind, you must first win the contest for their heart.  As negotiation experts Roger Fisher and  William Ury say in "Getting To Yes":
It is not enough to know that they see things  differently.  If you want to influence  them, you also need to understand empathetically the power of their point of  view, and to feel the emotional force with which they believe it.
You must get into the very heart of their business.  Understand what they do, and what they need  to do.  Show your prospective clients how  you will add the value they need and seek.   Paint a picture of the future you are helping them craft for  themselves.  Convince them that your  approach and actions will make them winners.
  People do not always decide and act upon facts  (logically).  They act upon how they  interpret what you say, and upon how that makes them feel (emotionally).  
Atmosphere, chemistry and the energy between you and your  client is as important as the SEO spec or offer itself.  When you circumvent this process by thrusting  facts and figures into their faces, you are destroying trust even before it has  had a chance to take root and flourish.   You are becoming a "Business Prevention Unit".
How Education Marketing Helps Find Your Perfect SEO Clients
Few business managers and executives know much about  SEO.  It's up to you to show them the  value an optimized website will add to their business.  Blindly pitching SEO services to a company  with little experience or knowledge will be a futile effort that is wasteful of  time and energy.
If you spend the larger part of your marketing day running  after new clients, it will suck away your most precious asset - your time.  And unless you are able to attract the right  kind of client, the one who understands the strategic importance of SEO and is  able to see beyond the band-aid of a SEO checklist that will win a #1 ranking  on Google, all your client-hunting efforts will be wasted.  Quick sales are quick fixes; they can back  fire on you.
All of that changes when you start viewing your competitors  as "colleagues" or even "partners".
Look, not every client is the right one for you.  By sharing your knowledge and getting fellow  consultants to follow suit, you are effectively "crowd sourcing" the  process which will educate your buyers about the value of SEO in their  business.  In one master stroke, you'll  save yourself time, effort and money spent on 'marketing' - and even shape the  future of the SEO industry.
By educating your clients, you eliminate time wasters and  skeptics among your new buyers.  This  helps you retain clients for longer, and gain their trust and support for your  strategic initiatives to help them dominate search results.  You'll get the budget you need to implement  an effective SEO blueprint without having to slash your own rates to the bone.  And you'll do it sans quick fixes - lifting  your clients to a higher level, by giving them a strategic focus.
Let's make no mistake about it.  Buying SEO is difficult.  It involves making smart decisions, insight,  and an understanding about the complexity.   Once the decision makers in any company or business truly understand  SEO, they will shun the snake oil sales pitches of tactical SEO shysters, and  even resist the temptation to 'outsource' their SEO to an in house IT team.
That means we, as SEO consultants, must do our bit to  educate our market about the nuances and intricacies of our work on their  behalf.  When we do this successfully,  collectively, we make the pie bigger - and tastier!  It will boost your chances of being able to  tack on an extra zero to the bill you present clients after your work is  done.  It will stop your ideal prospects  from viewing SEO as a cost, and start viewing it as an investment.
Informed Prospects Are Better Buyers
Knowledge, insight and understanding about SEO in the market  often leads to more sales - and bigger sales.   Of course, bigger deals need to be rooted in a sound mastery of the  technical basics.  Marketing managers,  CEOs or board members of large professional companies don't spend millions on  things they are doubtful about.  They  research well and look for quality providers.  
But they are also people, with their own deep seated needs  and desires - for safety, for security, for comfort.  And they evaluate service providers on more  than just merit.  
Talking bad about your competitors is bad karma.  Saying good things about your fellow  professionals while simultaneously differentiating yourself through better  positioning is a win-win deal.  It  profiles you as a nice person, honest and trustworthy.  When it comes to long term business  relationships and lifting clients to a higher plane of strategy driven SEO,  this is the "extra 1%" that can boost you ahead of everyone else...  even when you are slightly behind in other elements.
Going after the big deals means you must be well  prepared.  And a critical part of that  preparation involves educating the buyer.   Without a strong belief in your capabilities, and confidence in the  value and revenue that this investment will create, you cannot expect them to  invest heavily.  All players in this game  (consultants like myself, and agencies) are contributing to making the pie  bigger.  By helping everyone else, we are  actually helping ourselves over the long run.
Earlier this year, my company and our biggest competitor  jointly won a prize called "Gulltaggen - Beste Søkstrategi" (gold/winner) in Norway.  Sharing an  award for the best Search Strategy for the year with our competitor may seem  odd - but in fact, it is fantastic.   Together, we can help each other in many ways.  We are two companies, both professional and  staffed with smart, skilled, great people, who now have a better foundation to  convince the marketplace and the people engaged in the selection process that  what we do is valuable.  In concert, we  can feature more success stories, more customer case studies, and symbiotically  we are investing in our collective success.
So, as busy SEO consultants, what can we do to make it  easier for ourselves to find quality clients, with enough time (and less  stress) to complete the job and focus on results and business growth for  them?  How can we stop worrying about  budget overruns, or defend ourselves against competitors who make unreasonably  low bids (that are unsustainable in the longer term)?
The simple answer lies in educating our buyers.  By ensuring they make better, and more  qualified, buying decisions.  With  insight and understanding, correct decisions will naturally follow.  It's the age-old 'chicken and egg'  situation.  The chicken (SEO knowledge  provided to prospective customers) will deliver the egg (your big budget  client, with extra zeroes added to your bill!) 
Educate Your Way To Higher SEO Budgets
There's a danger to pricing your services too cheap.  Attracting new clients through rebates and  extreme discounts can get you into trouble.   While you may win a few new accounts, the razor thin margins make them  less valuable over time.  Selling your  SEO services at the right level is important.
Understand this... your prospective buyer is looking at the  industry as a whole, and trying to make sense of it.  SEO is a team effort.  Even one bad player on the team can ruin the  match.  That's why, despite SEO being one  of the most cost effective forms of marketing, we are still struggling to get a  secure trust-based footing in our market's mind.
Here's the reason.   Most marketing and business executives haven't learned about SEO at  school.  Sure, they've read the  headlines, and realize they probably need SEO.   But they don't know about the dynamics and synergies.  
If they believe a rubber boat is all they need to sail the  treacherous ocean of online business tactics, then that's what they'll look to  buy.  But what happens when a big wave  hits?  They get hurt.  
  Or if they are convinced that rowing their way all along the  shore is best for them, they'll miss the chance of shooting ahead of their  competition by going straight across on a freighter.  
It's up to us to fix this lacuna, and show our clients what  effective SEO really is.
If just closing a sale is the sole focus of an SEO  consultant, even if it means charging rock-bottom prices, then you are constrained  to using the least resources so that you can afford to get the job  finished.  
But what happens when external environmental changes force a  change in course?  Your hands are tied!
Your client feels unsafe, uncertain and scared.  You must then give them more attention, more  time.  Your resources are being strained  to breaking point.  When your clients  can't see the differences between your SEO efforts and traditional marketing  (CPC and CPM models), and you're forced to reluctantly admit that you cannot  guarantee results, they must go to the board and explain to the CEO or  executives that the money spent on SEO isn't delivering any return.  
Executives risk looking stupid, and so they become  stressed.  They ask difficult  questions.  Interfere in minor SEO  details.  Force you into a defensive  stance.  And they may even slash an  already inadequate budget.
You're halfway across the ocean - and have run out of  steam!  You won't reach your destination,  and the goods remain undelivered.
How To Navigate Stormy SEO Seas
As the captain of your SEO ship, you have no room or time  for unscheduled stops at every fjord or port.   You must stick to the course you've charted.  
Your offer was based on the estimate of a certain number of  hours to achieve specific results.  If  you waste these resources on a hesitant, unsure and skeptical client, you won't  be able to deliver upon your promise.   Even if you make no promises, you'll still fall short of the one-sided  expectations of your client - and your contract will not be renewed.
Even if you are well paid for your effort, serving the wrong  clients can set you back several steps.   In the same time, you might be working with a better qualified client,  raising the bar and adding zeroes to your bills, all the while partnering with  well-informed prospects who have bought in to your strategic long-term plan  that can add value to their business in more than one direction.
What if you could eliminate this wasteful effort of  reaching, convincing and working for "wrong" clients?  
Sharing knowledge within the community (even with  non-clients) will play a major role in creating such a better future for all  SEO experts.  Nobody will hate you for  helping them.  It's very likely that  you'll get some new friends and followers along the way, and they may even call  you later with a job offer, or to seek advice, or even to order your SEO  services.  
That's when you'll know that you've won the battle for their  minds - and hearts!
Trond Lyngbø is the founder of Search Planet with over 10 years of experience. He can be found on Google+, Twitter and his Norwegian SEO blog.