Not really directly SEO related, but I have been going to lots of conference parties of late, and it is quite interesting to view the social interactions that occur. Some people are really good at schmoozing, while others are average, and some linger in a corner hoping nobody will talk to them. Friends = recommendations = links. I still wouldn't describe myself as being a great schmoozer, but I know lots of people who are, and I think the most common traits of people who are successful at talking to and meeting new people are:
- they are confident and comfortable with their identity and state of being
- they are not afraid of being rejected or trying new things
- they make it easy for others to laugh, and also laugh at themselves
- they make eye contact and mirror body language
- they tend to largely focus conversations on the interests of the people they are talking to
- they can anticipate conversations, but do not skip ahead of those they are around
- they tend to make the people they are talking to feel comfortable with their identity, and important for being a great person or doing a great job at what they do
The more you know about a person than what an average person off the street would know about them the more likely they are to find you interesting.
I think the feeling of love is when other people feel more complete, happy, or as a better person when they are around you. If you can do things which create those sorts of feelings in other people then they will reciprocate, and (link) love is all you need. :)
For consultants SEO is probably more about sociology, psychology, and healthy social relationships than algorithms.
What good schmoozer traits did I miss?
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